If you have ever watched the popular television sitcom, “How I met your mother”, you will be familiar with the title of this post. The famous one rule of Barney Stinson, (Neil Patrick Harris) constantly is saying how “new is always better.”
I on the other hand really want to debunk mr stinsons idea. I think the line has a satirical and beautiful irony behind it. Seeing how it is often referred to when speaking about relationships, it gives rise to this idea around replacing things, people, or other areas of our life that aren’t “new” and “shiny”.
We are growing up in a world so fast paced, we are always 20 steps behind. Cue the fast food restaurants, the latest iPhone, the newest cars, the trendiest diets, and lets not leave out the most horrific tragedies. Its constant stimulus, we never get a chance to see what we have right in front of us because we are always too busy looking at the 20 things ahead of us. And then we make choices, we only are too late to discover what we lost, long after it has vanished.
I am all for progress, I love innovation and creative ideas, but I also think that much of our cultures growth has plagued our communities and families in a way that is very subtle and unconscious. We treat the people who are closest to us like they are “expendable crewman”.
No problem, we can just find new people, or go date someone else because, hey, there are 7 billion people on the planet. I believe that this rips us open at the very core of what all people ultimately want, which is connection. And I feel that connection will only ever be fostered in a world where it is truly valued and not thrown away like some old device that you can replace.
We need to start putting value on loyalty, honor, and virtue. These are things that you cannot buy, you cannot accumulate for later use. They form our character and character is formed through years of perseverance and sharpening.
My challenge to you, is to look at your life, and the people in it, and determine where you have taken someone for granted. Where you have disregarded someones importance. Because at the end of the day, we have no clue how long we will be alive on this earth, and I think its high time we started to acknowledge that.
The Love Guru